Thursday, May 27, 2010

Soap Box - Mystifying Media

Have you caught the shows on MTV lately? It is not usually my channel of choice, but as I have flipped through, a couple of shows have caught my attention.

1. Engaged and Underage, where they follow young couples who are getting ready to be married. While some were still teens, there was at least one couple I saw in my brief encounter who were 21, Christian, and virgins. They were making a huge deal out of it making it sound like they were so bizarre.

2. I think the other was called True Life. This particular episode followed newly married young couples who were described as not having “trial runs” or in other words, didn’t live together before they were married.

I was shocked! How could they make these young couples seem so strange and eccentric for their choices, while other shows on MTV like Bromance and Teen Mom seem to glorify the “different”(according to me) lifestyles, promoting them as fun, exciting and normal. I am not blind, I knew that things were changing. More couples are waiting to get married and are moving in together before tying the knot. However, I do not appreciate the way these situations were represented on television.

Why is it that from the beginning of time up until about 30 years ago these practices were shunned by society: waiting to get married, losing your virginity before marriage and cohabitating. Now all of the sudden we are expected to change our views & values to accept this change in lifestyle.

I guess this is my cue to be prepared, as I see good things disguised as being bad and bad things promoted as good. One more reason to stand strong, define my values and stick to them, and look toward future generations to do the same.

Statistics show:
  • 70% of couples now cohabitate before marriage – University of Denver study
  • About 40% of cohabiting unions in the U.S. break up without the couple getting married. -National Survey’s of Families and Households.
  • Cohabiting women were 80% more likely to separate or divorce than were women who had not lived with their spouses before marriage. - Yale University sociologist Neil Bennett
  • Non-virgin brides increase their odds of divorce by about 60% - National Survey of Family Growth performed by Dr. Kahn of the University of Maryland and Dr. London of the National Center for Health Statistics

Thursday, May 20, 2010

The Roaring 20's

Twenty somethings…my prognosis: turmoil. We all seem to feel it. Nothings seems quite right. We have so much of our lives ahead of us and we are all trying to figure out how to make it work, where our priorities lie, what our true interests are, how to balance adulthood, and making decisions that could make or break the rest of our lives. Especially as women, we have so many avenues we could travel. It seems no matter which we pick, we tend to think the grass is greener on the other side.

I love it when people are real on their blogs and write about their thoughts, not just what they are doing. (although those posts are really fun too!) I like that it makes me think. It makes me reflect on my own life and helps me know that I am not the only one who sometimes feel lost, overwhelmed, or confused.

Maybe its just because my friends and I are living it right now, or maybe the 20’s truly are a tumultuous time. What are your thoughts? Any 20 something “survivor tips” floating around out there?

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Ideas for Mom's 50th Birthday

If your mom is anything like mine, she is hard to shop for. So when it came time to plan for the big 5-0 birthday, I felt like I was at a loss. I searched the internet looking for appropriate gifts and ways to celebrate to make this birthday unique & inexpensive (as none of us are rollin’ in the dough). I found a few ideas here and there but nothing very substantial. I, being the only girl, brainstormed my own list and presented it to “the boys” for their input. Although I know some of these ideas are specific to my mom, I thought I would put it out to the world in case anyone else is looking for ways to celebrate their mothers on these special occasions. At least it might provide a good jumping off point for someone. As that is all I was looking for some ideas to start from and tailor them to fit my Mom.

Gift Ideas for Mom:

1. 50 ways to say we love you (make a list of 50 things we love about her and then find little gifts to represent them. We can hide them throughout the house, or find other ways to give them to her throughout the day)

2. Get neighbors and friends to write notes as to why they love her and present them to her

3. Get her signed up for a class (i.e. foreign language, gardening, ballroom dance, social media, costume/fashion design, sewing, cooking, hat making, etc)
4. Weekend get away

5. Family vacation

6. Shopping Spree

7. Room D├ęcor Shopping Spree

8. A new couch

9. We could research the year the year she was born and plan an event around it

10. Load the Top 40 hits from 1960 onto her ipod or the #1 hit from every year she has been alive

11. A family photo shoot

12. Scan in all of her childhood pictures so she can have them in digital format

13. Rewrite the words to the song “50 ways to lose your lover” to “50 reasons why we love you” & sing it to her over dinner

14. Work on updating her least favorite room in her home

15. Tickets for the family to go to a show in Wendover

16. A “work day” helping to paint, clean, build a structure for the backyard, etc. Whatever project she would like help with

17. Tickets for a show at Kingbury Hall, Pioneer Theatre Co., Rosewagner Theatre, Capitol Theatre, Abravenel Hall; some place she doesn’t get to go very often and would provide a more “formal” outing.

18. Nice collection of Herbal teas

19. New Book Shelves/organizers for her office

20. A coupon book with little things we could do to help her out

21. Dad could take her out on a nice date

22. Gift Certificates for a pedicure, manicure, massage

23. Scavenger Hunt throughout the day

What have you done for your mom on such momentous occasions? I would love to hear you ideas and will add them to this list. Thanks!

Friday, May 14, 2010


Today at my work, they began downsizing. We were one of the only Architecture firms in valley without a major layoff in the last two years. In fact, we hired people. We all assumed we were over the worst, but these economic times have finally caught up with us. While I still have a job, 10% of my firm was not so lucky.

When my boss called me into his office, he gave me a choice: I can stay and add the receptionist duties on to what I am already doing with Marketing, or I can go elsewhere. What a horrible feeling. I started as the receptionist over 3 years ago and was only there for 4 months before being promoted to the accounting department. About a year later I was once again promoted to being Marketing Coordinator. For the first time in my life I felt like I was creating my career, it was no longer just a job. I have really grown to LOVE marketing. They don’t seem to think they are cutting me off from Marketing, but in reality they are. I will be limited as to my involvement with clients, with planning ways to promote the company, and even having the flexibility to attend trainings and be involved with other marketers in the industry through SMPS.

Mostly though, it was hard to watch these people come out of the President’s office trying to hold back tears. There is such a solemn feeling here. I guess we will all just have to adjust, carry on, and count our blessings… until the next round. There are threats that more layoffs are looming, but if all our projects we have lined up actually come through, we will be fine. We’ll all pray…

Quite the Honor

As seen in Mountain States Construction Magazine